To be alive is to think.
It's one of the most fundamental and natural things about being human and most coaches are familiar with techniques and systems that help clients work with their thoughts in a way that will help them achieve their goals.
This includes methodologies related to reframing your thinking, releasing limiting beliefs, and reducing negative thinking through positive thoughts.
These are amazing tools and techniques and they are based on 1 simple premise:
Practice a better way of thinking.
So if a client is in deep financial trouble, the coach will help her find a better way of thinking about money so she can shake off all those thoughts that are holding her back from finding abundance in her life and work.
If a client isn't successful in their career or business, the coach will recommend a better way of thinking about their career or business so they can make better decisions and experience more success.
A better way of thinking is certainly a helpful concept, but it is also flawed and that's where the second principle of transformative coaching comes in.
The Principle of Thought states that whatever you're thinking about is made up in your mind, in the world of your thoughts.
You could move forward in time and think about something you're worried about or anxious about or you could move backward in time and focus on something you loved as a child.
Either way you're moving forward and backward in your thoughts, but in reality, you're sitting in your chair and thinking.
In reality, you have not moved.
That's the Principle of Thought in action.
Essentially this principle reveals that thoughts are your world and just about every individual lives inside a world that's created by their own thoughts.
This world is by no means the real world -- the world of objective observation and evidence.
It is the world that is seen and experienced through the filter of each person's thoughts.
A transformative coach knows that the most powerful way to get to the heart of a client's problem and to create real, lasting change is to have them understand the Principle of Thought.
When we have problems and challenges in our business or with money or relationships...
We are not really thinking about business or money or relationships from an evidence-based, objective point of view...
We are thinking about business based on whatever thoughts we came up with about business and the same goes with money and relationships and every other area of life.
Let's dive deeper and experience the Principle of Thought firsthand, so you can start to implement it in your very next coaching session
Answer the following questions:
1. Pick one area of your life or work and think about 3 thoughts that constantly run through your mind.
For instance, if you pick health, maybe you think "I have no time to get fit"
Area of Life:
- Thought #1
- Thought #2
- Thought #3
2. Now, reflect on each of your answers in question #1. Write down the opposite of what you wrote.
For instance, if you wrote "I have no time to get fit", write down "I have all the time in the world to get fit."
3. Take note of how you feel about these new "opposite" thoughts that you came up with in question #2. Notice that your thoughts are creating your world, your reality and based on the example, you are not thinking about time and fitness you are thinking about what you made up about time and fitness in your thoughts and you can change that at any time.
The third and final principle of transformative coaching is about consciousness.
This is the most esoteric and least tangible of the 3 principles, and a lot of coaches struggle with this one.
However, with practice, you'll come to see that this is the most powerful principle of all.
The Principle of Consciousness states that every human being has the ability to sense, to feel and to essentially have clear awareness that is beyond the mental chatter that's constantly going on in our minds.
A good example is when you close your eyes and the world seems to disappear from your vision, but you know the world is still there.
You have the awareness that the world has not dissolved or vanished. You know it will be there when you open your eyes.
This is the Principle of Consciousness at play.
Our consciousness is the root of inspiration and insight, it's the birthplace of intuition and intention.
Let's dive deeper and experience the Principle of Consciousness firsthand, so you can start to implement it in your very next coaching session.
The secret to working with consciousness is to allow yourself to enter a relaxed state. It is recommended that you try this activity when you are feeling calm and centered.
- Close your eyes and take 3 deep, slow breaths. Count to 6 on the inhale and count to 6 on the exhale.
- Keep your eyes closed. Allow your mind to shift to a problem or challenge that you are facing. Don't let yourself get caught up in thinking. Just identify a problem or challenge
- Come back to your meditative state. Take 3 deep, slow breaths. Count to 6 on the inhale and count to 6 on the exhale.
- Say to yourself or out loud: "I am tapping into my consciousness and I'm calling up my intuition, creative ideas, insights and solutions."
- Now open your eyes and note down anything and everything that entered your awareness. Don't worry if you don't receive any ideas the first time you try this. Most people need to practice a number of times before they can get into a truly relaxed state that allows consciousness to work its magic.