The Ultimate Guide To Self-Coaching Techniques
How To Coach Yourself, Achieve Self-Mastery, and Become a World-Class Coach
If you're like most coaches, you've always known -- somewhere deep inside -- that you were born to coach.
Coaching is essentially an "other-oriented" skill and when you decided to become a coach, you naturally started to focus on being of service to as many people as you can whether that's your paying clients, friends and family or even a stranger you happen to meet on a plane.
You were called to coach because you have innate skills that are perfect for the job - you're generous and genuine, you're a great listener, and you love helping others in any way you can.
You feel energized, inspired and deeply fulfilled when you get to change people's lives in powerful, positive ways but here's the thing...
If you're like most coaches you haven't taken the time to reflect on a very important question:
Chances are your answer is a big, fat zero and that needs to change right here, right now!
Self-coaching is absolutely crucial because it leads you to an inner exploration and understanding of your own mind and heart.
Self-coaching is the path to total self-mastery.
This Guide is designed to introduce you to the transformational power of self-coaching.
You'll discover essential, actionable skills, and 3 powerful self-coaching techniques to know your deepest motivations and connect with your biggest dreams and desires as you learn to become a world-class coach.
So, if you're ready to rock self-coaching, let's get started!
CHAPTER 1
3 Essential
Skills Of Self-Coaching
Before we dive into the nuts and bolts of self-coaching, it's important to understand why every single coach on the planet needs to get into self-coaching.
One of the biggest reasons is that while coaching is an "other-oriented skill," your ability to coach deeply and powerfully and to help your clients create the results they're looking for, begins with you.
In other words,
Transformational coaching begins with transformational self-coaching and you can only take your clients as high as you are willing to go yourself.
Giving yourself the gift of self-coaching allows you to fine tune and level up 3 must-have coaching skills:
Skill #1 - Self-Observation
The act of self-coaching cultivates the first skill which is about being an observer of your inner world - your thoughts and your emotions.
Knowing what you are feeling and thinking at all times requires a level of focused attention and self-awareness that will carry through into your coaching sessions with clients. It will also give you the power to change any negative thought or emotion that may come up for a positive, more empowering one.
This is not only a crucial tool for yourself, but you'll be able to teach your clients to practice self-observation on themselves and empower themselves to take more consistent, positive action in their lives.
Skill #2 - Non-Judgment
As a coach, you already know that judgment triggers a whole lot of unhelpful elements including self-doubt, overthinking, fear, negative thought spirals, and second guessing.
So, the second skill of non-judgment, which arises through long-term self-coaching, creates deep mental clarity.
You'll quickly and effectively set aside overthinking and uncertainty, and instead step into identifying powerful next actions and next steps for yourself... and for your clients.
This naturally leads to the third skill of self-coaching...
Skill #3 - Conscious Responses
It is about choosing conscious responses that work best for you and your specific situation, problem or challenge.
The truth is, most people go through life feeling forced, pushed or driven into reacting - not responding -- to everything that's happening around them.
This can lead to misunderstandings in their relationships as well as problems and challenges that could have been easily avoided.
And remember, you have 100% of the control over your thoughts, emotions, and actions.
That's why choosing conscious responses, which is basically the ability to resist knee-jerk reactions to situations, experiences and people, is an invaluable skill for a coach.
The 3 key skills of self-coaching are self-observation, non-judgment and choosing conscious responses. Nurturing these skills and practicing them on a daily basis will guide your self-coaching journey to a place of clarity and self-awareness.
Clarity on what you want to achieve, where you want to go, how will you get there.
You'll be able to take charge of your life and your work as a coach as it gives you in-depth understanding of yourself and what you want as well as your definition of success as a coach.
This will pave the way for a life and business that works in congruence with your personal values and beliefs.
Keep in mind...
Let's kickstart your self-coaching experience with some thought-provoking questions that inspire deep reflection and truth.
Question #1
What are 3 of your greatest character traits?
Question #2
What are some personal qualities or behaviors that you would like to change or improve?
Question #3
What does "living a successful life" look like to you? What does success mean to you?
Question #4
Why did you choose to become a coach or why are you considering coaching as a profession?
