The Ultimate Introduction to Self-Coaching
How to Achieve Self-Mastery and Become a World-Class Coach
By Ajit Nawalkha
If you’re like most coaches, you’ve always known -- somewhere deep inside -- that you were born to coach.
Coaching is essentially an “other-oriented” skill and when you decided to become a coach, you naturally started to focus on being of service to as many people as you can whether that’s your paying clients, friends and family or even a stranger you happen to meet on a plane.
You were called to coach because you have innate skills that are perfect for the job - you’re generous and genuine, you’re a great listener, and you love helping others in any way you can.
You feel energized, inspired and deeply fulfilled when you get to change people’s lives in powerful, positive ways but here’s the thing…
If you’re like most coaches you haven’t taken the time to reflect on a very important question:
Chances are your answer is a big, fat zero and that needs to change right here, right now!
This Guide is designed to introduce you to the transformational power of self-coaching.
You’ll discover essential, actionable skills, strategies and techniques to know your deepest motivations and connect with your biggest dreams and desires as you learn to become a world-class coach.
So, if you’re ready to rock self-coaching, let’s get started!
Skills Of Self-Coaching
Before we dive into the nuts and bolts of self-coaching, it’s important to understand why every single coach on the planet needs to get into self-coaching.
One of the biggest reasons is that while coaching is an “other-oriented skill,” your ability to coach deeply and powerfully and to help your clients create the results they’re looking for, begins with you.
In other words,
Giving yourself the gift of self-coaching allows you to fine tune and level up 3 must-have coaching skills:
The act of self-coaching cultivates the first skill which is about being an observer of your inner world – your thoughts and your emotions.
Knowing what you are feeling and thinking at all times requires a level of focused attention and awareness that will carry through into your coaching sessions with clients.
As a coach, you already know that judgment triggers a whole lot of unhelpful elements including doubt and second guessing.
So, the second skill of non-judgment, which arises through long-term self-coaching, creates deep mental clarity.
You’ll quickly and effectively set aside overthinking, and uncertainty to identify powerful next actions and next steps for yourself... and for your clients.
This naturally leads to the third skill of self-coaching…
It is about choosing conscious responses that work best for you and your specific situation, problem or challenge.
The truth is most people go through life feeling forced, pushed or driven into reacting – not responding -- to everything that’s happening around them.
This can lead to misunderstandings in their relationships as well as problems and challenges that could have been easily avoided.
That’s why choosing conscious responses, which is basically the ability to resist knee-jerk reactions to situations, experiences and people, is an invaluable skill for a coach.
Beyond the 3 key skills of self-observation, non-judgment and choosing conscious responses, self-coaching also gets you to a place of clear knowing.
You’ll be able to take charge of your life and your work as a coach as it gives you in-depth understanding of yourself and what you want as well as your definition of success as a coach.
This will pave the way for a life and business that works in congruence with your personal values and beliefs.
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