When we are feeling fear or stress about something, our body, our energy, our psychology, our emotions, everything is trying to go back to a state where we don't wanna feel the fear. We don't wanna feel. No. We want to feel certain. We wanna feel comfortable. And that's exactly what happens when something new is started in our life. When we are starting something new, guess what you're trying to do. You're trying to say, I don't really need to do this. I don't really need to do this. Let's go back to normal. Let's go back to my comfortable place. So you, your energy, your body is right now fighting every chance it gets against anything new because it doesn't wanna lean into fear. And while that may seem like a really good idea, what really is happening underneath is that you're also losing the opportunity for growth.

You're also losing the opportunity to create progress in your life. So what do we do? What do we do to get ourselves out of our heads, out of our minds, and get into some state of action so we can create progress? There are two ideas I wanna introduce. The first idea is a confidence-competence loop. What this idea suggests is that the more confident you get, the more you work towards more competence in your life. And the more competence you have, the more confidence that you get. So confidence increases with competence and competence increases with confidence, and so on and so forth. So as you're getting more competent, you're getting more confident. And so you expand into the greatest possibilities while this is a sound idea. Guess what the challenge is? The challenge is that when you are starting the loop, when you are not confident and you're not competent, you have the chicken and the egg problem.

What do you do first? How do you get confident if you're not competent? And if you're not competent, how can you get confident? So you have a challenge when you are starting something new because you can't be in the confidence competence loop. What needs to happen at that time is you need to take unconfident action. And the reason why I call it unconfident action is because, if you wait for confidence to strike, you would never get into a state of action. Which also brings me to the second idea that I want to introduce. And this idea was reemphasized in the recent movie that I watched, this movie's called Top Gun Maverick. You might have seen this movie in this movie. Maverick is the training instructor, which is played by Tom Cruise, to a group of elite fighter pilots, right? And they're about to go on an impossible mission.

And one of the students, his name is Goose. So Maverick is talking to Goose because Goose and Maverick have a backstory to themselves. And Maverick says, "Goose, the problem is that you think too much, you're so much in your head that you don't take action. You have to do, Goose. You have to do, you cannot just keep thinking about something you have to actually do." And Goose says, "Who are you to tell me that I should just do? You just doing things got my dad killed", which is the backstory that they have. And Maverick doesn't have anything to say at that time. He's tried to make his point, but Goose cannot hear it. And then they're both on a mission. Maverick is dagger one. He's trying to fly into this impossible location and bomb this enemy target really within a timeframe because if they don't hit that timeframe, they're more likely to get killed because there are fighter pilots coming to them with a much superior plane.

And so there's definitely destined to die. And so he's chasing a timeline. He's pacing himself trying to just do and get to the destination. Whereas, Goose is dagger three. He's a middle one that is trying to move the second layer of attack that they need to have. And he is thinking, he's thinking. And so he's being careful. He's being mindful. He's trying to make sure he doesn't hit something or do something that may actually get them into an accident. And what he's unaware of is that if he keeps thinking and does not take the action, if he doesn't do, they are more certain to die. And so he closes his eyes and he asks himself, what is it that I need to do right now? What is it that I need to guide me? Guide me, dad. And he hears the voice, "Goose, stop thinking. Do." And Goose, of course, listens to this, paces himself, flies really fast, bombs the location.

A nuclear land has been destroyed and everybody goes, yay. We won. And the moral of the story is that most of the time, like Goose, you may be thinking. You may be thinking that I can find a way out of the situation by thinking through it. And most of the time you can't, because what happens when you're thinking through something is you're drawing out scenarios. You're drawing out scenarios that may not ever happen. You're drawing out circumstances that may not ever happen. You're drawing out the impossible. You're drawing out the negative things that can happen. Things that can go wrong versus things that can go, right. And that is our mind trying to protect ourselves. And this is why you need to do more than think. Think about it like this. When last time you got yourself in action, what were you thinking?

You were thinking about how things will not work out, how you will reach out to a client. And they will say no, how you will reach out to somebody and they will kind of go, what are you talking about? They are not gonna look at you with the same power that they look at you. You think about judgment that people may have about you. You were thinking. Did any of that ever happen? How many times in your mind that you've drawn out a scenario and it never actually happened? If that was true, then it might be true. Now, the scenarios that you're planning, the situations that you're coming up with, may never happen. Here's an idea for you. Start your confidence-competence loop immediately by doing something. I want you to take out a piece of paper and write down each idea that you have, that you think you wanna pursue and then write down if it's comfortable or uncomfortable for you to do and rate the comfort level on a scale from one to five.

And the more comfortable the idea is, start there. Because your body, your soul, your energy is gonna resist it a lot less. It might be a simple idea like talking to a friend or joining a certification program or joining a coaching mastermind. It could be a simple idea where it invites you to go out and reach out to a neighborhood cafe, to talk to the cafe owner, and talk about business with them. It might be about hosting a circle of leaders and having conversations with them. It could be anything, the more comfortable, the idea, the more likely you are to actually execute it. And that puts you into unconfident action. Once you take unconfident action, you will find that most things that you assumed will happen do not happen. And because they do not happen, you will actually start creating momentum. And as you create momentum, you'll find more confidence.

And as you find more confidence, you'll reach out to more people and you'll actually practice the skill of coaching practice, the skill that you've been wanting to practice, and you will get more competent. And as you get more competent, you'll start to gain more confidence. And the loop finally will start where you'll get more confident and you'll get more competent and you'll be able to create more results in the world than you have ever done before. So next time, when you start to sabotage yourself, when you start to wonder if everything is gonna go, all right, or not, when you start to challenge all the ideas and strategies that you have, when you let fear come over you, when you're about to do something, I invite you to take unconfident action, to create movement in your life, to create momentum in your life. So you can move towards something that is more outcome-oriented versus more fear-oriented.

Here's what I want you to do next. Go ahead and follow this podcast. And the reason why I want you to follow this podcast is so every single time you're about to sabotage yourself. You can listen to my voice, telling you how you can take unconfident action, how you can create progress, how you can do things that you otherwise may think are impossible for you because they are already possible for you. And I want to support you in any way possible. So you can continue to master coaching, so that you can continue to create the impact that you want to have in the world, so that you continue to create the abundance you wanna create for yourself in the world. I want to be that voice in your head that tells you that you can do it. Thank you so much for tuning in. This is Coach Ajit and you're listening to Master Coaching with Ajit.